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Long Book About a Dysfunctional Family – ugh!

Sons and Lovers was good for the first half and then.  YAWN!!!  I drug through this one.  Not as bad as a Joyce novel but a snoozer none the less.

I found I was more interested in the supporting characters, the father and sister, who we do not really know other than through the main characters eyes.  The father is painted as a horrible drunk yet he stays with his wife and family working in the mines providing as he can.  He visits his sick wife in the hospital yet we are supposed to believe he does not care for her.  The sister ends up taking care of the sick mother while her brother works and galavants around town.   Does she see the strange relationship between mother and son?  What makes her so grounded and her brother such a fruit cake?

Let us discuss the main characters, shall we?  Paul and his Mother.  Can we say unhealthy relationship, boys and girls?  I really didn’t care what happened to Paul.  I didn’t like him.  He was a spoiled, womanizing twit who thought way too highly of himself. I didn’t like his mother.  She was a hard woman that wasn’t strong enough to deal with what life dealt her.  Instead choosing to live through her son making the best of her own life.   I really thought their relationship was over the top.  Am I really to believe that Paul was having sex all over town yet adored and ‘loved’ his mother – in a creepy and uncomfortable way?  I think Humbert Humbert’s relationship with Lolita was a better written, believeable creepy.

I did find some portions interesting such as the work day being over 12 hours long (pre-unionization, obviously) and that walking was the way of life.  No wonder obseity wasn’t a problem back then.  A harder yet simpler time.

So there you have it.  Sons and Lovers rates up there with Ulysses in my book.  An extremely long book about a dysfunctional family.

Up next..  The Grapes of Wrath.  So far so good for me.  I am enjoying it.

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And I thought I had issues!

Upon reading Sons and Lovers, by DH Lawerence, I came to a realization.  Many of the books we read have Mother-Son issues in them.  No Father-Daughter issues – yet… maybe that is in the next ten.  Let’s begin with Ulysses and Portrait of a Young Artist  -Stephan Dedalus is plagued with his relationship with is Mother.  The fact that he could not bring himself to pray with her on her death bed plagues him through both books.  He continues with a incredible conflict with women and his treatment of them into adulthood.

Lolita?  No, but I bet Humphrey had mother issues too!  He was a mess all around.

Next,  we have Brave New World.  The second half of the book is the tortured relationship of Mother and Son and the demise of both their cultures.

The Sound and the Fury has THREE sons and a neuortic mother.  Neither has a healthy relationship with her and vice versa.  Benjy has no capacity to have a healthy relationship, Jason resents yet loves his mother, and Quentin loved everyone a bit too much.

Sons and Lovers – WOWZA, yes.  Paul describes his mother as if she is his lover.  Can we say dysfunctional?  A mother clinging to life and living vicariously through her living son trying to salvage a life she so wanted.  A son not knowing how to separate his relationship with his mother from a normal relationship with a woman.  The two are intertwined due to this strange defination of life through her son.

Five out of Nine books with Dysfunctional mother/son relationships.  I think I am still sticking by my all writers are nut balls post!

Is it that us daughters are just well adjusted? We get along with our fathers? Or is it male authors?  Or is it all authors?  Am I overthinking this?

Why doesn’t anyone answer my deep questions?  They aren’t rhetorical, I really want to know!!  *smile*

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